Peer pressure draws to mind the group gathered in an overpowering circle around a timid kid, egging him on to, "just do it". The circle compresses until its force is too much & the timid kid caves. The group wins, peer influence stands in victory, laughter & applause abound.
This type of active peer pressure is an obvious demand to conform. But what of passive peer pressure? Here there is no convincing needed, it is just the way things are; if a group of friends all speak about their sexual relationships an unsure teenager listening in might reason it's right for them too.
Passive peer pressure is dangerous as it hides in plain sight. Until you think about breaking the mould you might not have even noticed it was there.
For many of us who have found ourselves in an unplanned pregnancy we have simultaneously boarded the invisible 'pressure' conveyer belt towards abortion. After all, what other options are there?
Facing either active or passive peer pressure can be scary. What can we do to resist? Here are 5 points to help us:
1. Be aware of the expectations:
If you've ever felt like you should just keep quiet in a conversation because your views were so different, chances are passive peer pressure is at work.
What are those around you saying (or implying) must be conformed to in order to be accepted? Once we understand where the pressure lies, we are better equipped to respond to it.
2. Knowledge is power:
Equip & empower yourself with factual information! Why not check out The Reality of Abortion at cbr uk
3. Speak to experienced & trusted experts:
The PASE team will always be pleased to speak things through with you if you have had or are considering an abortion. Friends & family can be a great support, but sometimes they're facing the same pressures & influences as we are. For some they might be the very source of the peer pressure. PASE can offer a listening ear & support.
4. Walk away:
Take some time to be alone, away from the noise. Take a break from the situation & explore yourself, get to know or re-evaluate what you're really thinking, feeling & questioning. Most importantly...
5. Remember all things are possible with God:
You may be reading this after the event. Thinking it’s too late. You have given in, and now there’s no way back.
You are not alone. God has a perfect plan for you & He will make a way where there seems to be none. Jesus loves you.
“Jesus said ‘I am the way, the truth and the life” John 14:6
by Charlotte Lavender