PATERNAL GRANDPARENTS OF THE ABORTED CHILD
A. Sometimes there is a great resentment against the mother, the paternity of the baby is called into question, the girl isn't good enough for their son and abortion is put forward as the best thing. Hearts are hardened and pressure is brought to bear, the father is told to be sensible and realize that he would have to pay support, he'll never be free of the girl etc.
B. Sometimes the father of the baby is fully supported by his parents who may even go as far as to offer to bring the baby up as their own. The sorrow when this help is refused and the mother goes ahead and aborts the baby can cause anger, heartbreak and hatred. If the relationship between the son and his girlfriend continues the tensions can cause deep divisions in the family.
MATERNAL GRANDPARENTS OF THE ABORTED CHILD
1. It might be that there is a history of abortion in the family and that can mean there is a lot of pressure on the girl to abort her baby. That is the way this problem has always been sorted. Girls who come under this level of pressure need lot of support to resist; if they give in to the family pressure they often have difficulties after abortion.
2. It might be the father of the baby who is putting pressure on the girl to abort, and the parents might not know anything about it until afterwards. If the mother is afraid of her parents anger, or ashamed to confide in them they may never know. The abortion will, however, affect the relationships in the family even if it is secret.